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Post by TheDaisy on Jul 4, 2012 22:46:27 GMT
I am very shamed that james may has such mean fans. That piece I've bolded saddens me. That you should make a sweeping statement to cover everybody here in that one sentence. I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but I expect you will anyway. You've been a member here for just about two months, and made less than 20 posts. Nobody here knows you very well - you're still very new. People will chat to you, but you've got to make yourself better known first. I don't tend to send private messages to people unless I know them well. It's like walking up to a complete stranger in the street and just starting to talk to them - I wouldn't do that, and if somebody tried to do that to me, I'm not sure I'd welcome it. Just try joining in with the chat in the forums first. Right now there aren't a lot of people about, I know. It tends to be busier here when James is busy ;D gives us more to talk about! But really, just give us a chance. There are lots of lovely peeps here.
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Post by crumbs on Jul 4, 2012 23:39:48 GMT
Oh dear. This makes me feel a bit sad too.
Jd, I have been on this Board now for over 3 years. If I'm honest, I joined because I fancied James and found this place a good source of information more than anything else. I have never really been able to get on it often enough to feel really connected, if you see what I mean. I think many members on here feel closer to some members than others and I am aware that some members have made good friends through the Board. But all that takes time.
No one here, as far as I am aware, has ever wanted to be unkind, or mean. Yes, it is the nature of Boards for some members to get more responses than others, but that is no one's fault, it is just the way of things - human nature if you like. Try not to take it personally - it is not a reflection of any one on here or you.
If I'm honest, I don't get many responses I suspect (not too sure of late though!) but I know it's nothing personal at all.
It could be this Board is not the right place for you, but if you persist and post positive and friendly comments, you will get responses eventually, I'm sure.
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Post by Wyvern on Jul 4, 2012 23:52:42 GMT
Hello JD,
I think things might have got off on the wrong foot a bit to be honest. Your post count is currently 15, and several of those posts were either critical or contentious - not, perhaps, the best way to introduce yourself, but I do realise that a lot of what was said was out of concern for others, and if you have difficulty communicating in English sometimes, it might not have come across quite as you intended.
We've been accused of many things at the JMB over the years, usually questioning our sanity, but of all the accusations levelled, meanness is not one of them. This community is one of the most supportive I've ever encountered - in fact, despite never having met her before, when I had to move house, Daisy turned up on my doorstep to help me pack, and Mayfayre let me live in her spare room, and I know various members who first met here now meet up and have formed strong real world friendships. However, I would say we are pretty protective, and I think if people are immediately critical, members of the board tend to get a bit defensive. I'd say that's pretty natural in a place with as strong a sense of community as this one, but the unfortunate downside is that it does take a bit more effort for new members to find their niche, and I can see how that might be a bit intimidating perhaps.
Daisy's right - chatting is the best thing to do, but the board is quiet at the moment. Rather than worrying about what James' fans are up to on other sites, see if you can join in with what people are chatting about here, and one other thing: none of your posts so far have been in the 'introduce yourself' thread, so that's what I'd suggest doing.
Basically, let's start again. Introduce yourself so people can say hello, have a friendly chat in whatever threads seem active and see how it goes.
Powodzenia!
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Post by Wyvern on Jul 5, 2012 13:21:32 GMT
yes. i am non speaking English first language. Polish and Russian are very dirrect so have this problem quite a lot in England as pleasantries are not within culture. i may be thinking wrong though but direct message received did call other memebers. i not wish to cause prioblem but find sat that a user on here would call others to a new member in personal message and then not speak again. seems very bad. yes? If you've received a message that you think seems to be a problem, please send me or one of the admin/moderator team a copy. You can spot us quite easily because of our coloured user names! If you would prefer to send it to someone other than me, it's probably best to make it one of the senior members like Inky, Lymaze, Lew or Admin. I don't think the board is set up to send automatic welcome messages - to be honest, I'm not sure that Proboards can do that - but all the admins are volunteers and won't necessarily have time to send individual messages out. Having said that, I do notice that the welcome thread has been neglected for a few weeks, so I'm sorry we missed you there. We do have a thread where you can introduce yourself The latest page is www.jamesmayboard.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=2821&page=22Why not pop in there and tell us a bit about yourself? We can't really make introductions for you because we don't know you yet, but if you try saying hello, people will usually come and say hi. Also, that thread is where a lot of the members have already introduced themselves, so you might get to know us a bit better that way. Give it a go. It can't hurt, can it? And if anyone says anything rude, either in the thread or in a DM, let me know and I will Have A Word.
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Post by Vivienne on Jul 6, 2012 15:22:32 GMT
Welcome to the board. We have many members from all over the board. I'm for the U.S. and an avid fan of Top Gear UK and Top Gear USA. I also like all the other programs the guys do. Do you like living in England?
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Post by Wyvern on Jul 6, 2012 18:49:09 GMT
he tell me though to type and see how people find this. Your husband is very wise! You know, the more you use it, the better your English will be - and if people don't quite understand, I'm sure they'll ask you to explain, so it won't be a problem If you're happy that you've resolved the issue with the person who send the rude DM, I'm happy to leave it at that. But if they do it again, please let us know. So hopefully you'll have some fun here.
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Post by crumbs on Jul 8, 2012 15:29:00 GMT
I believe Leeds is a very lively place to live with lots to do and a very good nightlife. You are near some lovely Yorkshire countryside too.
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Post by From Afar on Jul 9, 2012 4:35:33 GMT
Welcome JD I hope that you find the JMB to be a happy and exciting place after the bumpy start :-)
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Post by aeromanda on Jul 10, 2012 16:19:34 GMT
Hello JD! I have been a member of this board for just over two years now. I haven't been on it for about the last month because my life has just been crazy busy and I haven't been on the computer much at all. But I wanted to say welcome to you and I hope from here on out you have a good time on the board. Jumping in to a new community can be tough sometimes and it can be hard to get to know people. Especially if there is a language barrier. But all of my experiences here have been wonderful and hopefully, if you give us a chance, from here on out yours will be too. Hope to see you around on the boards!
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