Hops
Filthy Mayhemer
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Post by Hops on Feb 2, 2011 19:40:22 GMT
Actually eclairscream, that's the point I'm trying to make to MOH. Simply because I have an attraction for James, doesn't mean that I'm going to run off with him. Indeed. But it's nice to fantasize about what you'd when you found him on your doorstep. ;D It's healthy to have a bit of a crush (or more than a bit) on someone like mr May and I presume YOH would prefer this to a crush on, say, a co-worker. I really do believe my celebrity crushes save me from RL attractions, don't you? Mr Hops and I have a standing agreement that there are some people that we're "allowed" to leave each other for. Very convenient. My list is much longer than Mr Hops'.
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Post by flatin5th - Knight of the NC on Feb 2, 2011 21:16:25 GMT
I think I should make a list! ;D Just to make sure - am I right in thinking, 'your sister', and 'the work receptionist' are not good to have on the list? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by chariset on Feb 2, 2011 21:50:56 GMT
I once dated a guy who said the rule about being attracted to other people was, "You can get hungry outside the house, but you eat at home."
It always slightly annoyed me, for some reason.
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Post by dit on Feb 2, 2011 23:32:32 GMT
"goes off like a frog in a sock"
What the **** is that?!?!!!
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Post by devil-may-care on Feb 2, 2011 23:42:48 GMT
"goes off like a frog in a sock" What the **** is that?!?!!! I was thinking the same thing, but didn't dare ask!! ;D ;D You're right Hops, a celebrity fantasy is so much safer than a neighbor/co-worker fantasy! ;D I don't have a list, better get started... hmm... short list on my part. James May and David Mitchell Wonder who MOH would have on his list. I think I may wait a while before I broach that subject. You're also right, Flat. Sisters and receptionists are definitely not on the list!
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Post by From Afar on Feb 3, 2011 8:57:44 GMT
"goes off like a frog in a sock" What the **** is that?!?!!! I was thinking the same thing, but didn't dare ask!! ;D ;D Ditto!My list: James May And on occassion when the mood takes me:
David Tenannt Timothy Dalton John Simm Philip Glenister
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Post by Eclair on Feb 3, 2011 9:02:20 GMT
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Post by eclairscream on Feb 3, 2011 9:13:47 GMT
Ummmm "goes off like a frog in a sock"... hmmm how can I put this?? Well if you can imagine what a frog in a sock would do... and then put this in terms of ummmm.... well.... she could get angry and react like a frog in a sock or..... Oh please just use your imagination... I forget sometimes that the rest of the world doesn't know aussie slang hehe
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Post by eclairscream on Feb 3, 2011 9:25:27 GMT
I think I should make a list! ;D Just to make sure - am I right in thinking, 'your sister', and 'the work receptionist' are not good to have on the list? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Well that would all depend on where you are from Flatin... have you heard of a place called Tasmania?? Of course on my list is just Eclair...
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Post by devil-may-care on Feb 4, 2011 0:16:47 GMT
Ummmm "goes off like a frog in a sock"... hmmm how can I put this?? Well if you can imagine what a frog in a sock would do... and then put this in terms of ummmm.... well.... she could get angry and react like a frog in a sock or..... Oh please just use your imagination... I forget sometimes that the rest of the world doesn't know aussie slang hehe * pictures angry frog caught in sock* I think I get it, now!
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Post by From Afar on Feb 4, 2011 6:53:50 GMT
Why would a frog be in a sock anyway? or am I missing something here?
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Post by adrianmay on May 8, 2011 0:48:06 GMT
I’ve read through more than 50% of this thread and here’s the thing I still don’t understand; why are we so afraid to say publicly that we have a massive crush on Mr. May?! I’ve shouted other celebrity crushes from the roof tops. So, what’s up with this one?
About a year ago, I went through a David Tennant phase. I had a screen saver, I giggled with my friends about it, I even told my OH (not that I had to). This time, I’ve told no one.
Keeping this a “secret” is awful. I’m a really open book kind of person. Am I afraid it makes me seem weird or is it because it strikes too close to the bone? There seems to be something very personal about the James May fetish. Could a much more intuitive person please suss this out for me or would it kill the fun of it to go there?
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Post by snowsunflower on May 8, 2011 12:49:28 GMT
Yeah, me to adrianmay. There was no way I could keep my crush on James a secret. Although I do have to admit, when I revealed my crush on James, everyone was like, "Really?" I had to provide proof as to why I had a crush on him, and then some of my girlfriennds came around to my point of view, but I'm unmercifully picked on by my hubby and his friends for crushing on James. I say to them, "That's fine, keep it up, when I disappear and move to England someday, just keep laughing."
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Post by Wyvern on May 8, 2011 14:16:04 GMT
I’ve read through more than 50% of this thread and here’s the thing I still don’t understand; why are we so afraid to say publicly that we have a massive crush on Mr. May?! I’ve shouted other celebrity crushes from the roof tops. So, what’s up with this one? James is a lot less obvious than a lot of the other people who tend to feature in people's fantasies. He's not a pretty boy or a rock star, he's an ordinary bloke who likes cars and motorbikes, the War, toys, beer and tinkering with things - in fact, a set of attributes that could be applied to a lot of middle aged blokes. He's a bit pudgy, he has interesting dress sense, he does some incredibly daft things... in fact, in a lot of 'ordinary' blokes would drive you absolutely mad with that set of attributes - imagine being with a bloke who liked going to the pub or fiddling in his shed/garage in his spare time, considered Spam and beans the height of fine dining, kept bits of broken vehicle in the house* and allegedly sometimes dries his smalls in the front garden. On paper, it's really hard to explain the appeal, but the essential 'Jamesness' is what makes him attractive. He is all those things, but he's also endearingly eccentric, enthusiastic, funny and clever. It's a bit like making a meal when all you have in the house is a tin of olives, some brussels sprouts, Cream of Wheat and half a tub of slightly mouldy Tofutti and yet the result is delicious (WARNING: DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME). To put it another way, to the casual viewer, being attracted to James is a bit like being attracted to the slightly eccentric bloke at work, or your husband's best mate; he's a pretty normal bloke with no immediately obvious special appeal if you're not familiar with his work. It's hard to shout about it because people just don't get it. Still, it could be worse. Imagine what it's like to be me - I'm a pervy Clarkson fancier. Try explaining that! *not that I'm exactly a paragon of virtue on this - I have a new gearstick gaiter and roof seal under my bed and two new body panels for my car in the hall, awaiting a coat of paint so I can fit them (not to mention a new set of sills in the garden). Sorry, Mayfayre, I'll sort it as soon as I figure out how to get the old body panels off and down to the tip...
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Post by antonia on May 8, 2011 16:47:29 GMT
My OH is fine with my crush and everyone knows.My daughter even gives me the James May cars from her TG mag because I know it makes her mad when we go to Tesco I grab the proper TG mag and threten to lick James' face in it, crys of "God mum step away from the magazine rack!" can be heard through out the shop followed by me and her dad laughting.Cracks me up every time.Also if she gets out of hand I've told her I'm coming to her school to tell all the kids about my crush. Guaranteed goodness!!
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Post by crumbs on May 8, 2011 18:48:29 GMT
Adrianmay I don't tell many people - if MOH and kids found out it would be, well, difficult
Friends that know my leanings are completely bemused. Wyvern is right. On the face of it, James is an odd choice as he is not (forgive me girls) classically good looking. I daresay we all have our own reasons for liking him. For me it's his intelligence, his voice, the fact he's a musician and his beautiful eyes. He does come over as a bit nerdy and middle aged but it kind of fits. He also makes me laugh - fatal.
The downside is I get the p*ss ripped out of me mercilessly at work! But it's a laugh really.
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Post by dit on May 8, 2011 21:44:00 GMT
Essentially, I'm much in agreement with Wyvern on this one. There are very much the qualities of the "ordinary bloke" in James, and in fact he seems to cling to them; he seems 'grounded', doesn't hide himself away (is there anyone who doesn't know where he drinks?), when you meet him he's very down-to-earth, and will chat away quite happily. He's not the everyday definition of an alpha male, yet he is, very much so; confident in himself. At the same time there is an endearing, childlike side that is very appealing.
In addition, there are so very few men in life who are witty, intelligent and clever that when one does come along, women tend to pay attention, if they're wise.
However, some people only look at surface characteristics, so someone like James would probably not register on their radar. Personally, I'd rather have a bloke with qualities like James than a so-called 'good-looking' man with a brain the size of a small pea.
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Post by adrianmay on May 9, 2011 1:13:33 GMT
Oh, thank you ladies. I feel much better knowing there’s rhyme and reason to my apprehension about sharing my admiration. He is all those things, but he's also endearingly eccentric, enthusiastic, funny and clever. It's a bit like making a meal when all you have in the house is a tin of olives, some brussels sprouts, Cream of Wheat and half a tub of slightly mouldy Tofutti and yet the result is delicious (WARNING: DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME). To put it another way, to the casual viewer, being attracted to James is a bit like being attracted to the slightly eccentric bloke at work, or your husband's best mate; he's a pretty normal bloke with no immediately obvious special appeal if you're not familiar with his work. It's hard to shout about it because people just don't get it. . OMG, you are so clever. Yes, it IS like being attracted to the eccentric guy at work or your husband's best friend. I couldn't stand my husband's best friend but...I was so curious. The man talked incessantly on topics he thought he was an expert on (which was everything), he really was an expert on foreign cars, he had a degree in physics, was an aficionado of all things drink and had three cats. In fact, I was so curious, I started setting him up with girls I knew just to see what would happen. *hangs head in shame* Still, it could be worse. Imagine what it's like to be me - I'm a pervy Clarkson fancier. Try explaining that! That’s an easy one to explain. He’s an uber male that hints at having a soft creamy center (That sounds wrong). He acts like that wealthy, popular, smart ass kid from high school. Not a big thrill for me but, I get the attraction. I bet he’s tremendous fun. Ya know, there was an interesting moment with him in the “What Not to Wear” episode. Jeremy was arguing with the girls that he wasn’t trying to be difficult. Then he recants and admits he was being difficult and why. What got my attention was the intentional switch in the tone of his voice. It became softer, quieter and slower like he was admitting something very personal. I had this brief battle in my mind between feeling squishy for him and admiring what a clever manipulation he was pulling off. I gotta give him his props. He’s very good at what he does.
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Post by adrianmay on May 9, 2011 1:35:44 GMT
I say to them, "That's fine, keep it up, when I disappear and move to England someday, just keep laughing." So many times I have thought the same thing. I've even priced homes all over the UK. Holy s***. It's expensive there. How does anyone afford a reasonably sized house there? My dream is that we could go back and forth seasonly. I just can't give up the US completely.
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Post by adrianmay on May 9, 2011 1:55:33 GMT
My OH is fine with my crush and everyone knows.My daughter even gives me the James May cars from her TG mag because I know it makes her mad when we go to Tesco I grab the proper TG mag and threten to lick James' face in it, crys of "God mum step away from the magazine rack!" can be heard through out the shop followed by me and her dad laughting.Cracks me up every time.Also if she gets out of hand I've told her I'm coming to her school to tell all the kids about my crush. Guaranteed goodness!! I could never tell my daughter about this one. She would die of embarrassment. Of course, she is a teenager. Everything is embarrassing to her. My husband wouldn't be amused either. Tennant was bad enough. I think they consider crushes undignified. Hee, hee. I love threatening my daughter I'll show up at her school in some crazy get up and use her pet name to call to her across the quad. She's at the stage where I can't even give her a kiss good-bye at drop off.
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Post by jameslover28 on May 9, 2011 2:36:55 GMT
How does anyone afford a reasonably sized house there? the answer is no one! lol
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Post by antonia on May 9, 2011 7:51:54 GMT
I could never tell my daughter about this one. She would die of embarrassment. Of course, she is a teenager. Everything is embarrassing to her. My husband wouldn't be amused either. Tennant was bad enough. I think they consider crushes undignified.
Hee, hee. I love threatening my daughter I'll show up at her school in some crazy get up and use her pet name to call to her across the quad. She's at the stage where I can't even give her a kiss good-bye at drop off. [/quote]
My daughter is 13 and going through the don't kiss me phase.It's all in good fun though and she knows I wouldn't really do it. It's more embarrassing to her that her little mate Sean is stalking me.lol
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Post by crumbs on May 9, 2011 10:16:09 GMT
Know what you mean antonia about telling offspring. My lot would be in complete disbelief. For a variety of reasons....hey ho.
It's been very interesting reading our individual reasons for fancying James. In may ways they're all broadly similar. But to be truthful, what we like is the image of James. We don't really know him: we know what he chooses to portray. Of course, some of him probably bears resemblance to what he is - he does love the complexity of human endeavour, beer and wine, poetry, music etc etc ad infinitum. And he seems genuine to those that meet him (and I'm sure he is). But there will be another side that we will never know. And that's as it should be. After all, he might be a bit of a git! (No! Stop throwing things at me!!) But I doubt it.
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Post by dit on May 9, 2011 12:09:42 GMT
....to be truthful, what we like is the image of James. We don't really know him: we know what he chooses to portray. Of course, some of him probably bears resemblance to what he is - he does love the complexity of human endeavour, beer and wine, poetry, music etc etc ad infinitum. And he seems genuine to those that meet him (and I'm sure he is). But there will be another side that we will never know. And that's as it should be. Very astute comment, crumbs. As you say, it's the image that appeals, for all the reasons we've given. But I do think part of that image is an apparent lack of artifice which seems unusual in a 'media ponce'. Because he seems to give a bit more of his personality, more of himself - all you have to do is watch any of the programmes he's created, for example, where he explores things that are clearly very personal to him and his interests - I think perhaps we feel we do know a bit more about him.
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Post by crumbs on May 9, 2011 12:32:46 GMT
....to be truthful, what we like is the image of James. We don't really know him: we know what he chooses to portray. Of course, some of him probably bears resemblance to what he is - he does love the complexity of human endeavour, beer and wine, poetry, music etc etc ad infinitum. And he seems genuine to those that meet him (and I'm sure he is). But there will be another side that we will never know. And that's as it should be. Very astute comment, crumbs. As you say, it's the image that appeals, for all the reasons we've given. But I do think part of that image is an apparent lack of artifice which seems unusual in a 'media ponce'. Because he seems to give a bit more of his personality, more of himself - all you have to do is watch any of the programmes he's created, for example, where he explores things that are clearly very personal to him and his interests - I think perhaps we feel we do know a bit more about him. Yes I agree dit, he does appear to lack artifice and yes, that too is very appealing. I really hope that side of him remains untainted by fame and fortune. I did forget a part of him that really pulled me in initially - (how shallow am I?): his hair! It seemed so individual and I've always liked mid length hair on a chap. Hence my disgruntlement at the mad barber earlier this year!
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Post by dit on May 9, 2011 13:03:54 GMT
Actually, it's interesting how many comments on theis page have not mentioned his looks! It would appear that we are the sort of ladies who are wise enough to look below the surface.
Whether you find someone physically attractive is such a personal thing, isn't it? You can't sum it up in words. I, too, was attracted to James in the first place partly because of his hair. To me, a man who has his hair how he wants it, rather than how fashion dictates shows a strength of personality too. But the rest - well, who can explain it?
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Post by aeromanda on May 9, 2011 13:26:31 GMT
I agree with all of the above. When I read the part about the side of James that we don't know it reminded me of the part in the "drive to work" video where he says he may turn the camera off and fart. Because that part of that video just emphasized that he is a real person who does things like fart and I'm sure there are aspects of him that would drive one nuts that we just don't know about and, as said above, that is how it should be. That said he does seem more "real" than most other celebrities. I know this post is getting a bit long but there is a small story I have to relate. My husband and my friends know about my James infatuation. (It is beyond a crush. ) And most of them make fun of me for it. Well there is a web site called justspotted.com (forget how I found it) where people post when they have seen a celebrity. You can sign up for specific celebrities and be alerted when someone sees them and, yes, you can subscribe for James. One day I made the mistake of telling my husband about the site and he laughed and called me a stalker. Well, the next time that we were in the car together and my phone's alert went off he said to me, laughingly, "Is that your text alert that James May just farted?" I responded that I wanted to say that that comment wasn't funny, but it was and that I don't think that is information that I would want to have. ;D
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Post by From Afar on May 9, 2011 13:31:44 GMT
He's not a pretty boy or a rock star, he's an ordinary bloke who likes cars and motorbikes, the War, toys, beer and tinkering with things - in fact, a set of attributes that could be applied to a lot of middle aged blokes. He's a bit pudgy, he has interesting dress sense, he does some incredibly daft things... in fact, in a lot of 'ordinary' blokes would drive you absolutely mad with that set of attributes - imagine being with a bloke who liked going to the pub or fiddling in his shed/garage in his spare time, considered Spam and beans the height of fine dining, kept bits of broken vehicle in the house* and allegedly sometimes dries his smalls in the front garden. Wyvern what a perfect description of James! I have to smile though because other than the drying your smalls in the front garden you could have been decsribing MOH down to a tee oh and the fact it's usually bits of motorbike not cars in the house So my conclusion is this: a) this is why I am attracted to James b) this is the very reason why I can't reveal my obsession crush
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Post by aeromanda on May 9, 2011 13:51:48 GMT
There are many aspects of James's personality, to which I am attracted, that remind me of my husband as well. Very smart. Interested in many diverse subjects and very knowledgeable in those subjects and other subjects as well. Funny and talented in many areas. But then there is also the fact that I consider James to be a smokin' hottie. (Sorry hun. )
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Post by From Afar on May 9, 2011 14:01:30 GMT
I consider James to be a smokin' hottie. (Sorry hun. ) ;D DITTO ;D
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