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Post by devil-may-care on May 24, 2011 2:32:52 GMT
Snowsunflower, I cannot believe YOH is still harping on this subject. I guess he just wasn't ready to let go of it. I was given some very good advice by eclair's OH (eclairscream). When I was "ousted" and MOH became insecure about practically everything in a matter of minutes, I didn't know how to broach the subject and clear the air. Eclairscream told me to tell MOH that I appear to have good taste in men. My husband as well as James! ;D The more I thought about what he wrote, the more it seemed the correct approach. When I first "discovered" James, through Drink To Britain, I was struck by some of the similarities between he and MOH. They both are intelligent, love to know how things work, interested in war/history and just a bit OCD. I honestly think that's when I started paying more attention to James. His personality, his wit and charm. Then, all of a sudden, I found that I was "in love" with James. Well, with his public persona at least. We've all stated in our own ways that what you see of James on the television and at his personal appearances, seems to be just James. Nothing put on. Nothing phony. Of course, as Dit said above, we don't really know the man himself. It's easy to believe that he's truly the person we see. Just like you used James as a trigger for motivating yourself to lose weight, YOH is using James as a vehicle for all the problems and insecurities that he's harboring. Men, in general, are simple creatures. When you referred to yourself as a commodity, you probably weren't far off the mark. You are and have been a precious possession of YOH's for 22 years. But your value to the rest of the world has just gone up. He probably feels he needs to tighten his grip. I've had MOH tell me lately, in the heat of an argument, that sometimes he "just doesn't know me anymore". We all change and grow over time, as do our relationships. It's when they notice those subtle changes that the trouble begins. They believe we've sprung it on them. Changed over night. MOH is the first to admit that he's not perfect, but sometimes he needs reminding that he's still the man in my life. The only man. At the moment, I'm dealing with a different kind of jealousy. MOH hates the idea that I'll be attending Dragon*Con in September with "the girls". He would love to go, but the real underlying reason for his jealousy is that he's going to be forced to share me with them. In our 15 1/2 yrs. of marriage we've been apart for one night and that was not by choice. So my going for 5 days to Atlanta is just killing him. He even hates to discuss my travel plans or anything that has anything to do with my trip. I only bring this up because YOH may be unwilling to share your affection. Although it is not returned from James, he probably feels like he is vying for your attention, love and time in your thoughts. With our busy lives, it's a wonder we have time to devote to any one thing in particular! So whether he calls it love, like, lust or whathaveyou, he's going to have to either learn to live with it, or you're going to have to keep it stuck way in the back of the closet. I'm with Dit, I don't advocate lying or keeping secrets from YOH, but this is something that perhaps he doesn't need full details on. It's a bit like the pot calling the kettle black. I had been keeping this from MOH and still keep some of it only to myself. Good luck, snowsunflower. * Hugs*
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Post by devil-may-care on May 24, 2011 2:34:16 GMT
* wonders how many of us could be handcuffed to James at once* I am seriously having a conversation with one of my police officer friends to find out the thickness of a handcuff so I can figure this out. DMC, you're a horrible influence on me. My friends already know I'm nuts. Actually, in that group, I'm one of the saner ones. ;D Snowsunflower, really sorry things aren't so pleasant with you and YOH. Good luck, let us know how it turns out. We keep pics of James and alcoholic products in stock. Thank you for your diligence in our scientific study!! ;D ;D I only influence those that are willing! ;D
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Post by meimichan on May 24, 2011 6:59:42 GMT
I am seriously having a conversation with one of my police officer friends to find out the thickness of a handcuff so I can figure this out. DMC, you're a horrible influence on me. My friends already know I'm nuts. Actually, in that group, I'm one of the saner ones. ;D Snowsunflower, really sorry things aren't so pleasant with you and YOH. Good luck, let us know how it turns out. We keep pics of James and alcoholic products in stock. Thank you for your diligence in our scientific study!! ;D ;D I only influence those that are willing! ;D Well my one friend was no help. I tried google, and I need to work on refining that search, but then I ended up going out for ice cream with MOH and a walk downtown...don't think he was too keen on the walk part, to be honest. Then we fell asleep...and I woke up at 1:30 am, because that is how my life works these days. Okay, 50mm, minimum. Now, depending on the length of James' arm and if the cuffs had varying chain lengths so that everyone cuffed to him wasn't all packed in(same standard chain length, I'd guess 6 per arm, maximum)....this number could be quite high. ;D The only way to be sure is to actually try this out though.
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Post by snowsunflower on May 24, 2011 9:52:18 GMT
Thank you everyone. You've all given me good perspective. My hubby's friends (who are my friends too), some of them followed him home last night - to take me down memory lane. First my hubby apologized, thoroughly. Then I was reminded why I was depresssed this week, due to James' Telegraph column, his Porsche article. Being a caregiver ended my career and made me have to sell my red MR2 Spyder. One friend said, "I remember a time when you were just like James May. You weren't on TV but you made a lot of money doing what you liked to do, traveled to interesting places and bought lots of cars." It's true. We've lost count at 20 cars in our 22 marriage. At one point we had 5 cars. Right now we have three - a lot for a single couple with no kids. One friend said, "I've seen the look on your face watching James drive a car that you'd sell your soul to simply sniff the interior!" I laughed. Another friend asked, "Now tell us, how do you really feel about James?" sigh I'm actually quite envious of James - deep down. Will continue later...... Adding on: Despite the fact that my hubby's friends tap-danced on my crush, they made many valid points. My hubby went to his friends for perspective, like I came to you all for perspective. And things happen for a reason. All persepctives kinda merged, which is a little freaky. One of my hubby's friends has seen our history from the beginning, and when my hubby started complaining about stupid stuff, he told him that James is a direct link to my real love and obsession, which is cars. And when my career derailed, so did my capability to enjoy them. They said I can't live vicariously through James, and they're right. And of course, them being men, they wanted to squash my crush, even though their wives and girlfriends have crushes of their own. They never understood why I didn't go back to my old career, and I told them that's what I'm doing now. They said, try harder, and my hubby's closest friend said to me, "If you get back to it, I guarantee you won't want to go to England for a book-signing if you're driving a Porsche. You came close to that dream and gave up, understandably given all you went through, but you're free now. Take advantage of that." I said in defense that I was proud of how I handled everything and never harboured any ill feelings because it was just life. I was told that life knocked me down and I never got up, and I replaced my animosity by crushing on James. Well that's what they say. I guess it could be true. But they all struck so many chords that I couldn't ignore what they were saying. Regardless of all that, I don't want to envy James. It's a time-wasting emotion. When they made me feel it, I didn't like it. I don't like jealousy, or any other negative emotions. But sometimes you have to confront those kinds of emotions or they get covered up as you carrry on with life and transform into something far from the truth. And we're lucky to have friends that aren't afraid to say what needs to be said. As for the "losing weight" thing, they told my hubby to get a shot gun. Then I kicked them out...lol! As for the crush, unfortunately they all shamed me into a realization that makes it hard for me to go to the NC. So I'll stay on the outskirts until I get my act together. Cuz what I really love about this place isn't just James - it's all of you - and I'm very thankful to James for that. See yaz around
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Post by adrianmay on May 24, 2011 16:06:00 GMT
Funny, been working on a two part theory that is in this neighborhood. It is a combination of two opposing adages; "Opposites attract" and "Like attracts like." I figure the person you're attracted to embodies both things that you wish you were AND things that are familiar to you. In other words, if you feel you lack something, you're attracted to what the other person has. Conversely, a person is also attracted to what they are familiar with because it's recognizable and comfortable. Snow, that is really an interesting revelation you've come to about your time spent here. Lots of people seem to come here when their having difficult times (me included). Top Gear and James May et al. are programs that seem to remind people of the happy, frivolous times in their own life or vicariously gives them the satisfaction of trying things they always wanted to try. I've never been to an English pub but, I imagine this board to be like one in the sense that everyone in the community hangs out, talks about good and bad, has a laugh and then goes back out to their real life. There's defiantly some drinking going on in here . See you around when you can stop in for a pint. This bar seem to never close.
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Post by dit on May 24, 2011 17:14:51 GMT
Take care of yourself and your hubby, snowsunflower. See you around the board, I hope.
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Post by eolise on May 24, 2011 20:07:36 GMT
snowsunflower, wow, all's so difficult... I hope you've figured everything out soon and that we can still read a lot of you on this board!
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Post by aeromanda on May 25, 2011 20:37:59 GMT
Don't think of it so much as an "if" as a "when". Even if it is just for a vacation to England. ;D Hope you and YOH are doing well snowsunflower.
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Post by snowsunflower on May 25, 2011 21:32:00 GMT
Thanks again everyone @ dit: My hubby and I always take care of each other. That’s why we’ve lasted so long. We’re both lucky we found each other in this crazy world. adrianmay: I find it funny how the brain copes with so many things. I really like what you wrote cuz it does sum up what happened to me. @ nat: Thanks, I’ll always be around. I love this place too much! @ aeromanda: heehee.....I vote for "when"! Well I had a slight turn of events. Sorry this is long, but the end is funny!!!! My hubby never said I should stop liking James. His friends did educate him on their wives/girlfriend crushes. But my hubby’s best friend suggested that I stay away from reading James column or anything about him for a while. He just wanted me to try. He’s seen a therapist for stress, and he knows a lot about certain things. My hubby wanted nothing to do with this only cuz he knows me well enough not to tell me what to do, or even suggest something that is connected to something I really like. But I said I’d give it a try. I went about my business yesterday, came home from work, did some freelance work, avoiding all the fun stuff I usually do when I get home, which is reading this board. I developed a headache, took something for it, but it didn’t go away. I worked on a project, started getting blurry vision. I went down to my workshop to work on something else, and I looked around at how organized I am – and I thought of James, got depressed and took my dogs for walk. My headache grew even worse with exercise. My hubby’s BF came over to visit with me when my hubby got home and my BFF came over too (the one who helped me set up my studio a couple weeks ago), and I started feeling better. They asked me if I was willing to see some things they noticed I did after my dad died. I had a lot of stuff to move around when my dad died, and our basement is an organized mess. A quarter of my basement stores my 17 year portfolio of things I’ve done. I also have a lot of my dad’s stuff that I can’t get rid of yet. My hubby and his friend showed me something interesting. I had covered up and barricaded all the things in my portfolio with all of my dad’s things. It apparently was a subconscious symbolic act according to my hubby’s friend. I didn’t realize I did it until they pointed out. They reminded me about something else. I had a home hospice set up for my dad, and I was awake for over 25 days until he passed away, taking care of him with the help of a visiting nurse. Cat naps were all I was capable of, but for 10 days prior to my dad’s death, I never achieved sleep. I had to go to the doctors after my dad’s burial because I couldn’t remember things, had problem sleeping and when I did sleep I had severe nightmares. If I drove somewhere, it took me forever to find where I was going and I couldn’t get home. I’d literally drive past my driveway several times until I found it. And I was very dyslexic – in writing and in speech. I was diagnosed with a severe case of post-traumatic stress disorder. Eventually I got better, with some time off from work, and then I carried on. Just recently I started exhibiting signs of forgetfulness again (minor little things but my hubby noticed cuz normally I’m sharp at a tack - he thought it was my obsession with James). My one girlfriend that I grew up with moved in to my dad’s old room over a year ago cuz she needed a place to stay, and she just moved out a couple weeks ago. The room was vacant again, and I set up a production studio. My hubby took me to the closet in that room and showed me my mom and dad’s jackets in the closet and my mom’s favorite purse that my dad kept, and in it were their wallets still filled with the things that were left in there when they died. They were in the basement in a box, and now in the back of that closet. My hubby asked me why I did that. My BFF watched me do it, asked me what I was doing, and she said I never answered her. She said I changed the subject. I don’t remember doing it….at all. When my girlfriend gave me back the house key when she moved out, I couldn’t remember where it was. My hubby found it. Apparently I put it in my dad’s jacket pocket. Another thing I don’t remember doing. I fought back some tears and walked out of the room. I told my hubby’s friend about being in my workshop and getting depressed. I mentioned this before in another thread on this board, I use play dough to sculpt things before I go to hard modeling clay – and it reminds me of plasticine, which I explained to them what James did with it. I’ve been using play dough long before I watched Toy Stories. That’s what I started to do in my workshop and I stopped. Then my headache got worse. So they made me lay down. They’re all in my room sitting on my bed and my hubby’s friend joked, “I fear she’s a female version of James May.” He also feared that he may have taken a “filter” away (James) that I was using to ignore things that were hurting me. He said when I feel better, go do what I normally do and forget about what he said to do. But I didn’t. I slept instead. And when I woke up this morning, I immediately felt a throbbing headache. My head was splitting with intense pain. My hubby got real worried and called my doctor. I had to take off work today, which stressed me out cuz my job sucks and being a healthcare worker, it’s frowned upon when you take days off for anything. I’m able to function at the moment cuz I’m on a really awesome pain killer!!!!!!!!!!! Love it!!!!!!!! I had a CAT scan done this morning that showed nothing serious. But my blood pressure was high. My doctor wanted to monitor me for a while if the pain persists. But she believed its stress. My hubby did mention to the doctor about the things I just mentioned (not about James). And she said that I probably didn’t properly mourn my dad’s death, and it’s coming back to haunt me. And having had post-traumatic stress disorder will cause the brain to do things like I’ve been doing. The doctor asked me if I wanted to see a therapist. I told her it took me 8 years to get over my mom’s death, so I’m 3 years into dealing with my dad’s death, it’s just gonna take time. She said a therapist can shorten that time. I said, “If a therapist can wave a magic wand and allow me to give two weeks at my current job, find affordable health insurance, so I can work on being self-employed again, I’ll be happy.” She smiled and said, “Now I remember!” She looked back in my chart and saw that I had another bout of stress that I dealt with well before PTSD. When I started the process of being a caregiver, I developed a condition called TMJ – grinding of the teeth that creates a painful jaw and muscle problem. “You just bottle things up, don’t you?” I said, “I’m like dog. I never show when something wrong until it’s really bad. I learned it from my dad.” She suggested a therapist again, just to help me stop bottling things up. And then she took my blood pressure again and it was extremely high. I told her I really don’t want to see a therapist. She asked me why and I said I just don’t. My hubby told her that I tried seeing a therapist after my miscarriages and it wasn’t a good experience. I was made to talk about how I feel and it upset me more than how I actually felt. She smirked a little and looked back in my chart to when my last miscarriage was – I had two of them. She sat down next to me and said, “Sweetheart, you’d been dealing with loss since the late 90’s. If you don’t find a way to healing, you’re going to self-destruct.” I told her my miscarriages don’t bother me anymore. She poignantly said, “That’s not the point. Letting time heal all wounds is fine if you have a few things to let go of. You lost 2 pregnancies, both parents and a career you loved. No one should have to deal with that without some help.” And then I just started crying, cuz hearing her say it felt like a sucker-punch. She apologized and put her arm around me and said, “Do you ever cry on your own?” My hubby immediately said, “NO! She never cries, unless directly made to cry like you just did.” She asked me if I had any brothers or sisters and I told her I was an only child. And I did confess that I sometimes feel really alone because of that. I told her I still don’t want to see a therapist. She said, “Alright, but you’re gonna see me for while, is that ok?” I nodded. She asked me what I do for relaxation, and I said yoga, and I write. She said that’s great, but my hubby looked at me and then he asked the doctor to do something, telling her that I read about cars and stuff to relax and to try taking my blood pressure while I had a chance to think about those things. My hubby said to me, “Close your eyes and day dream about anything you want.” So I thought about James driving the Bugatti Veyron (seriously, no lusty thoughts!). My blood pressure was normal. The doctor asked me what I was thinking about and I told her and she laughed and said, “Seriously! I suggest you keep thinking about that!” So I got a doctor’s permission to keep thinking about James!!!!!!!!!! But she did tell me that I have to come back and see her periodically. That’s just a band-aid. My hubby apologized to me again for making such a stink about James. If he can keep my blood pressure low, he’s perfectly fine with it. I said I’m actually glad I found this stuff out. I’m fascinated that my brain does this stuff without me knowing about it. Ha! I have a doctor’s permission to think about James….lmfao! I couldn’t wait to tell you all that!
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Post by aeromanda on May 25, 2011 21:58:21 GMT
That is so awesome snowsunflower!
*imagines stopping at pharmacy and picking up prescription bottle with the following label..." Rx: Take one James Two to three times daily or as needed to relieve stress. I always say that I'm already on enough medications already but that is one that I would gladly add to my regimen. ;D
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Post by adrianmay on May 26, 2011 0:48:27 GMT
So I got a doctor’s permission to keep thinking about James!!!!!!!!!! HAAAA, HAAA, HAAAA, HAAAA. Oh man, that is so awesome. Although, I've got to admit I wish I was obsessed interested in something a bit more construtive like butterflies, stars, rocks, something. I'm an only child too with two aging parents. My father is bedridden and my mother has hospice and a nurse right now. They live in sperate places. So, I spend my week driving my kids around and going back and forth between dieing parents. There's my "secret".
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Post by snowsunflower on May 26, 2011 2:25:52 GMT
Well, you found another only child who knows what you're going through.
I'm obsessed with other things too: baseball, Red Bull air racing, drag racing, shoes, clothes, perfume and I actually have a crazy fascination with rocks and gemstones.
I observed a lot in the past couple days and realized there are loads of things that remind me of James: bananas (damn him for fooling around with bananas, it's my favorite fruit), most cars I drive by every day, airplanes that I see every day cuz I live near a miliary air field, my piano and keyboard, my AC/DC Back in Black cd, beer, wine, space shuttle launches and anything to do with NASA which I've been following since I was a kid (I'm a Voyager I follower), Spam, tools and now unfortunately when ever I look at my water color brushes I think of him - damn that little brush he keeps in his pocket....lol.....although I don't use a brush like he does. I know he thinks that using a little brush to clean fine details in cars cleans your brain too (hummmm maybe I should think twice about this) but I'm too impatient to do that kind of thing.
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Post by devil-may-care on May 26, 2011 2:41:06 GMT
That's great snowsunflower!! A prescription for James! Who would have thunk it!! ;D ;D
Good luck with everything and have some of these... *HUGS*!! ;D ;D
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Post by meimichan on May 26, 2011 2:53:46 GMT
Well, you found another only child who knows what you're going through. I'm obsessed with other things too: baseball, Red Bull air racing, drag racing, shoes, clothes, perfume and I actually have a crazy fascination with rocks and gemstones. I was beyond obsessed with rocks and minerals when I was a kid, still have my field guides. Also paint. And if you want, you can borrow my brother and I'll take a turn at being an only child.
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Post by adrianmay on May 26, 2011 5:49:29 GMT
Well, you found another only child who knows what you're going through. I'm obsessed with other things too: baseball, Red Bull air racing, drag racing, shoes, clothes, perfume and I actually have a crazy fascination with rocks and gemstones. I was beyond obsessed with rocks and minerals when I was a kid, still have my field guides. Also paint. And if you want, you can borrow my brother and I'll take a turn at being an only child. Geology was my minor and I wanted to be an astronaut from the time I was 5 until my second year in college. My 6th birthday cake even had a mercury capsule on it. What an about face I've done. Maybe, I'll dig my old things out. Sure wish I could paint. I can't even paint a wall properly.
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Post by eolise on May 26, 2011 14:05:43 GMT
Omfg, snowsunflower, unbelievably awesome!!! Hillarious!
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Post by aeromanda on May 26, 2011 22:44:06 GMT
I felt exactly the same way. My husband and I have been together for 18 years married for 15. He is also a software engineer. Last night while we were preparing diner I mentioned to him the general gist of the thread and the idea that spouses may be jealous over one another's crushes. I mentioned the above quote and said "that is you that is exactly what you would do if you came home and found James and I on the floor together." He said "well, that would depend on which car James drove. If it was the Ferrari I would route around in his trouser pockets until I found the keys and then I would ride away in my new car." Then he laughed and said "A pretty good swap, my wife for your Ferrari." I said "Yeah, as far as you're concerned. I'm not so sure James would agree."
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Post by adrianmay on May 27, 2011 6:05:29 GMT
I felt exactly the same way. My husband and I have been together for 18 years married for 15. He is also a software engineer. Last night while we were preparing diner I mentioned to him the general gist of the thread and the idea that spouses may be jealous over one another's crushes. I mentioned the above quote and said "that is you that is exactly what you would do if you came home and found James and I on the floor together." He said "well, that would depend on which car James drove. If it was the Ferrari I would route around in his trouser pockets until I found the keys and then I would ride away in my new car." Then he laughed and said "A pretty good swap, my wife for your Ferrari." I said "Yeah, as far as you're concerned. I'm not so sure James would agree." Oh, you must have a better sense of humor than I do or be a much nicer person. I think that might be my last straw. Is this some sort of software geek thing? Computer widows? Besides, my husband doesn't like Ferraris. He might swap for an Aston.
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Post by crumbs on May 27, 2011 9:24:53 GMT
Snowsunflower: just been reading about everything you've gone through - and I really feel for you. You have been through so much and I am so pleased that YOH is standing by your side when you need him most. Dit is right - men can be simple creatures and they are territorial when threatened. But it shows how much he loves you and fears losing you - I'm sure you'll re-assure him if he says anything again. It sounds like he's focussed on the more important issue now - you and your health. Here's a mega big hug kiddo cos it sounds like you could do with one. xx
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Post by snowsunflower on May 27, 2011 9:49:40 GMT
@ crumbs: Thanks, and yes, my hubby is a sweetheart!!! He's been doting on me and I'm taking advantage of that, cuz I usually don't. I'm a very independant person, and I forget that I have a support system. Been feeling much better and working through some sensitive issues about my dad. I never realized how crying actually helps....lol.
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Post by ambergris on May 27, 2011 13:32:03 GMT
Me too, snowsunflower. You've had a hell of a lot to deal with, but it sounds like you've got some great friends as well as a great hubby. I haven't been through anything like the losses you've had to endure, but I know my addiction to James is a kind of painkiller, too. A lot of the qualities I love in James, like his joyfulness and spontaneity, and his ability to just live in the moment and focus on the things he's really passionate about, are things that I find it really hard to express in myself because they got somehow buried in my upbringing. When I first saw, on YouTube, the Top Gear section where the presenters' mothers test those small cars, I got quite tearful seeing the way James interacts with his mum, cos I don't have that good a relationship with mine. I'm sure my attempts to work through some of those issues are tied up with my thing about James. My husband's generally pretty good-humoured about James, but a couple of times he's suddenly got a bit cross about it all. When I joined this board, I said I wouldn't go in the NC, and I've kept my word (so far--if anyone catches me in there, kick me out straight away! but he worries about my emotional attachment just as much. I try to be open and honest and not hide things from him, but it is difficult to do that sometimes. I think I once used the 'love' word and got a rather shocked look back! Everyone's right, I know--it's because he doesn't want to lose me to anyone else, even a fantasy man, and I appreciate that. I think he has been deliberately more attentive to me recently, too! For me, I think I have to let James inspire me to be more the sort of person I want to be, rather than letting myself get bogged down in the negatives. I'm into music and poetry, so I've tried to spend more time on them over the past few months, as well as trying to be more outspoken and more openly enthusiastic about the things I love. If James helps me do all of that, I shall be forever grateful! I really hope you continue to work things out, snowsunflower. Just make sure you keep that blood pressure down
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Post by snowsunflower on May 27, 2011 23:44:27 GMT
ambergris: I'm still fascinated by how I got hooked on James. My hubby and his friends don't get it. Their all gear heads just like James. They understand my crush on Robert Downy Jr more than James. I like James' diversity, but what I really like for some strange reason, is his sense of sarcasm. I love his smile. And his voice. Ok, [getting my head outta dreamland] Blood pressure is still normal
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Post by aeromanda on May 28, 2011 16:07:45 GMT
LOL! I knew that my husband was just suggesting something as absurd as me going at it with James on the floor. Funnily enough, he mentioned an Astin first and it wasn't until I said "Well James doesn't own an Astin how about his Ferrari instead?" that my husband said that he would be happy to drive away in the Ferrari. I do think that a lot of software geek / engineers have similar personality types. My husband is very unobservant (on things that I would notice anyway) and is somewhat absent minded. (He's never met a set of keys that he hasn't lost.) So he can be very frustrating! But he is also a genius with a wonderfully sarcastic sense of humor and can be wonderful to hang out with and talk to. Don't expect him to understand emotional stuff or why it is that I get kinda irked that there is never any jealousy there. That type of stuff just doesn't register.
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Post by ambergris on May 29, 2011 13:11:38 GMT
I'm still fascinated by how I got hooked on James. I think it's the complicated mixture of blokishness and romanticism that gets to me--the feeling that there's way more to him than meets the eye. That sort of combination in a man always gets me fascinated. I still don't really understand how it happened, though. One moment, he was the other bloke on Top Gear; the next, I was mesmerised. I don't know what he was talking about at the time. As far as I can remember, all he did was turn round and look into the camera. It's a mystery...
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Post by From Afar on May 29, 2011 13:39:04 GMT
I still don't really understand how it happened, though. One moment, he was the other bloke on Top Gear; the next, I was mesmerised. I don't know what he was talking about at the time. As far as I can remember, all he did was turn round and look into the camera. It's a mystery... I'm with you on that.... I try to pin point the moment when James went from "the long haired one on Top Gear" to "day dream lust fantasy Sex God who won't get out of my head" but I just don't know how it happened either Not that I'm complaiing that it did, I'm quite grateful really
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Post by devil-may-care on May 29, 2011 14:53:07 GMT
I was on my way to get mochas yesterday. Our favorite cafe just reopened for the season!! ;D I had in a SheDaisy cd and this song came on. When I really listened to the words, they seemed to describe some of the problems a few of us have been experiencing through this thread. Thought I'd share. I thought that this was supposed to feel good And if you were really mine I guess it would I didn't fall in love 'Cause it was the right thing to do I just went ahead and fell for you Oh, somewhere down along the line I guess that love became a crime This contradiction makes no sense This is punishment I feel like this is judgement day I'll raise my hand, stand up and say I don't believe I'm innocent This is punishment Truth is your heart was never mine to take Now I'm stuck in a feeling That I'll never shake I prayed for it to go God knows I want it to stay But here I am loving you either way Oh, somewhere down along the line I guess that love became a crime This contradiction makes no sense This is punishment I feel like this is judgement day I'll raise my hand, stand up and say I don't believe I'm innocent This is punishment You'll never feel all the things I can't say And I'll never know if it's better this way Oh, somewhere down along the line I guess that love became a crime This contradiction makes no sense This is punishment I feel like this is judgement day I'll raise my hand, stand up and say I don't believe I'm innocent This is punishment Oh, somewhere down along the line I guess that love became a crime This is punishment I feel like this is judgement day I'll raise my hand, stand up and say This is punishment This is punishment This is punishment www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWxAO-3EWow&playnext=1&list=PL9E8986A871AFDD9CI would have preferred an official video of this song, but I couldn't find one. Oh well.
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Post by adrianmay on May 29, 2011 15:33:06 GMT
My husband is very unobservant (on things that I would notice anyway) and is somewhat absent minded. (He's never met a set of keys that he hasn't lost.) So he can be very frustrating! But he is also a genius with a wonderfully sarcastic sense of humor and can be wonderful to hang out with and talk to. Don't expect him to understand emotional stuff or why it is that I get kinda irked that there is never any jealousy there. That type of stuff just doesn't register. Does my husband have two wives? They sound identical. Maybe that's why he keeps misplacing things. He can't remember which house he's in. About 6'2 180lbs?
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Post by aeromanda on May 30, 2011 14:41:44 GMT
That would explain a lot! My husband is about 5'10. 180lbs. What little bit of hair he has left is so dark brown that it is almost black. He is a good looking man and he has beautiful hazel eyes.
Having "listened" to women describing their husbands on this board, considering how alike they sound, I have often though that we should have a "James May Convention" in a hotel somewhere. The wives could get together and oogle discuss James and the husbands could get together and attend a "James May widower" support group. I think it would be a smashing good time! ;D
DMC, the lyrics to that song really hit the James love feeling bang on! Very appropriate!
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Post by devil-may-care on May 30, 2011 15:24:02 GMT
Oh, I love the idea aeromanda!! MOH would be in very good company from what I've read here!! ;D ;D
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Post by mightybabs on Jun 22, 2011 23:31:11 GMT
My name is MightyBabs, and I'm a May-o-holic....
Also, thank you for this thread. I was beginning to worry about my sanity.
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